[. The Male Mind .] [. Uber Long Post .]

So, I've been on a few dates. Six. Six different men.

-One guy was very athletic, very funny, very Gemini. He was very giddy. Very kind. Yet he seemed to busy for words.

-One was very... naturalist-like. We had a lot in common, and a gentleman in a lot of aspects. Real skinny. Lots of tattoos. Had an idea where he wants his life to go. Yet he didn't have his life together yet, like.. I think even I am a few steps ahead. Then, after awhile.. he drops off the earth, coming back and saying he wasn't feeling it. Then to come back later, and apologize. Then hit on me.

-One came over, and I got a overwhelming feeling that he was not as confident as he described. He was very timid. I felt like I could seriously run this kid over, and he'd cry. My parents liked him, but I wasn't really feeling it. There was lots of awkward moments.

-One was amazingly buff. Like, crazy good looking buff. Yet, as sweet as he was... he was still in a college boy state of mind, and wasn't seriously looking for something so long term. We had a fun evening together, but I never really got contacted back. I don't think we had that common.. what do you call it.. Well, I just think it wouldn't of worked anyway.

-One was strong. Silent. Unreadable. On the phone, I could talk forever with this man. I really thought I would like him. He was funny, smart, and liked a lot of the same things I did. We could talk for hours.. Yet in person, I think I got overwhelmed with being around the energy of my friends with this guy. So I came off as not confident. PSH! Well... he didn't talk to me for a few days, after I thought spite my behavior, we had a nice night out. He told me that he felt deceived about my figure. Oh my god, I wretched my teeth and bared it. My body has taken such a toll in the last few months. HE isn't no leaf in the wind either, but I looked past that because I actually liked him. He was funny, and I enjoyed his company. He messaged me the other day wanting my to come over, but I hesitated and didn't. Why? Because I'm still kind of hurt by what he said. If anything, I felt deceived with his words.

-One was all shy smiles. Very sarcastic. Very strong. Yet the feeling I get with someone when I like them, I didn't really have. Through, I wasn't with him there long before he had errands.


If you know who you are. I could care less, there is a reason for me posting this. If you have a problem that I date people, and that makes you uncomfortable.. well, I'm sorry.. but I'm not your girlfriend. Get more confidence, and don't be jealous. I like confidence.

So I blog on one of the dating sites that I'm on. I ask the public population of males on the website for open advice for other women, and I give them tips as well.

Now, I'm so notorious to like people who are untouchable. If they... are already in a relationship(No.. not married.), out of my league, or live very far away.

As frustrating as this is, I can't help how I feel about some people..

This was my post:

I'd have to say... "If you want it bad enough, you can get it." I think this is especially true, don't you think? Especially for girls when it comes to them and there lil' crushes. ;]

Seriously, guys aren't that complicated. They aren't some puzzle.. they're people. Not some alien race.. Even if they pee standing up, and find entertainment in watching someone get punched in the face. Haha.

I was told by a guy friend of mine, that.. once you figure out a guy... he's yours.

Now, I do not agree with that. For the last couple weeks I've been on a couple dates. Some of which have been good, the others awkward. Online Dating is extraordinarily more complicated then meeting someone at the bar. Yet, in some ways I like it a lot better.

1.) Gives you a chance to look over profile. See what they're into.

2.) See there pictures. They can actually tell you bit about the guy. [Like the ones with two drunk women on either arm, and the guy is licking one of the girls breasts... Oh I've seen it.]

3.) Get to talk to them on a deeper level without having actual animal instinct take a step in for the sheer attractiveness of each other.

Yet, no matter if it be online or out in the real world.. we always kind of put up an act the first time meeting someone. Like a representative of ourselves that flaunts our qualities. Imirite? :]

So.. here's how my head is ticking. Men, I hope you comment on this blog, perhaps giving us women and the followers of my blog on here tips and secrets.

Alright. Before I get into any situation I always think.. Would this guy even be into me? Would he be nice to me? Would I be into him? No man should be out of your league.. but come on, realistically.. Would the person find you attractive as you do they? ... I stress this. Im not trying to be mean, I'm being realistic.

Being confident. Men, am I right when I say this? I like confidence. I like a bit of bad ass. So do guys. If you love yourself, all the better. They aren't lying when they say this.


I personally believe when you get a man's number.. its good to call him. Not like every fucking hour. Yet to hit him up, to say hello. I don't like waiting two days because then its like..."Hey. Its Keia, remember me? Smart? Lips? No? ...Fuck...." Or "Hey Its Keia, from the party.. remember? Guinness? Black hair? No.. God damn it." I want~ to be remembered. I like to call when I have something to talk about. Something cool, especially if it reminds me of the person.



Guys. When you calls us. We can do cart wheels if we like you a lot. Do it. It'll help your game. Lol. Oh, and RETURN calls. If you don't dig the chick.. make it clear. I've seen girls in the past call repeatedly. Its not pretty, nor attractive.



Ladies: Beware of the Man-Slut.. You KNOW who they are. Usually charming. Will play up on anything you put out that you like and suave you into their grasp. They like to chase and be chased. They've usually been with a ton of girls. I don't know about you.. but a man that slept with a ton of sluts.. is like a No-No to me. Haha. Smooth tactics WON'T work. Don't think you know his game, and he can be tamed. He won't be. If you think this, he's already won.



So guys. If a girl is into you.. what would get your attention? Like.. what would you like to talk about on the phone? What Dont you like talking about on the phone? Whats a good way to approach you at a bar? Whats a good way at a party?

Name ten things.



Answer These:

Like.. what would you like to talk about on the phone? What Don't you like talking about on the phone? Whats a good way to approach you at a bar? Whats a good way at a party? If you were to see a girl at the bar, [Not for a hook up, be adults here...], and seen a girl in a nice top, fitted pants and heels... Vs. a girl in uber tight jeans, a revealing top, and a lot of makeup, in stilettos.. which one would you be more attracted to? Which one would you bring home to Mom if you WENT somewhere with it? Do you like it when a girl knows her beer? What are some things a girl could do as a hobby that would be intriguing?







DO NOT say: Show up naked, with beer.



Rofl.



Thanks for reading.

Now... This 'asking' question wasn't for me. I thought it was fun for the people that watch my blog on there.

Here were some of my interesting responses:

Me personally I would rather have a girl less sexually dressed up and know shes hott, then try to show it all just to get attention. Yes, most men like the girl who shows it all, but really why is she doing it? Correct me if I am wrong, but most girls who know they are beautiful, don't have to be piratically naked to get a guys attention. As for the phone talk, I personally like to talk about anything to that would let me get to know the girl more. Like, what she did for the day, what's she doing, anything that wouldn't make things boring. The only thing that I get bothered with is if they constantly talk about ex's and how they were infatuated for so long yada yada, over and over again. I don't care what you and your ex had, its over, that's why he is an EX! A good way to approach us at the bar is to just be yourself and approach us like any other normal human being. By a friendly gesture or endearing look that may show us that your interested. Just saying hi, is easy enough. Most men will answer a friendly hello unless they are a total asshole. Girls always work best when they have similar hobbies to a guy. Like if a guy likes to play video games, and a girl does too or both like sports. When people have things in common they mix better together because they can hold conversations about it. They can also participate in activities and dates will not be boring. Anyway, that is my two cents if people agree or disagree

I can not stress this enough: be direct. Everyone says they don't like games, but they all play them.

I'd break relationship success down to understanding oneself and understanding that one's partner is very much like the self. IE know that you're both human and both make mistakes. Learn to control your emotions and you'll be able to tolerate the pain in the ass that really is social interaction.

Interesting... yes?